It’s not that I hate birthdays. It’s not that I hate getting birthday presents…

So you’re probably all wondering why I’ve gathered you here today. Well… I’m turning 21 in exactly 12 days 21 hours 23 minutes and 16 seconds.

Yeah. That’s what I was thinking.

My parents came for a visit yesterday to bring me the rest of my furniture (god bless ‘em) and to take me out for lunch (god bless ‘em even more). We gave my dad three choices of Montana’s, Original Joes and White Spot. And so off to White Spot we went. It was nice to spend some time with my parents. I only get to see them every month or so. Living 2 hours away has its pros and cons. We talked about the normal things. Work, friends, my brother and his new girlfriend, more work. And then something interesting came up; birthdays.

Now, I’m not an absolute birthday hater. I don’t mind them. I don’t like getting old, but I don’t mind them. The thing about birthdays is I can never seem to have a good one, no matter how hard I (don’t) try. We scrapped the original plan of me coming to visit the weekend after the birthdays and decided that I would come down on the 11th or 12th to help my parents move. Ahh yes, they’re moving that weekend too. This all sounds like a good idea on the surface. We talk and talk about inviting my brothers new girlfriend to dinner and seeing my other relatives. And just then, when I think the topic is done, the worst part of all comes up. Presents.

Ok I get it. That doesn’t sound scary, right? am I right? Wrong.

It’s not that I’m ungrateful. It’s not that I don’t like receiving gifts- because I do! It’s because of this: Every year my parents ask me what I want for my birthday. My mum makes me write out a list of all the things I would love to have. Year after year things change slightly. Books, movies, makeup… but the idea is the same. I compose a list of things that I find hard to buy for myself. Like a 20$ MAC lipstick or a book that I can only order online but don’t have a credit card to use. I do this every year, and every year what do I get? An ugly necklace, a DVD player or money.

There’s nothing wrong with these items really. Necklaces can be a nice gift, DVD players are useful and money is great. But I don’t ever recall putting these on my lists. I sound like a brat, right? And you know what, sometimes I am. But here’s a little back story to this:

My dad’s birthday is September 14th. Mine is September 15th. When I was a kid (and still now sometimes) we had combined birthdays. My parents would make a variety of different foods, invite friends and family over and we would hangout outside. When guests came they would greet my dad with a smile and sing the praises of “happy birthday you old man!” Then they’d look at me and say “it’s great to see you again.”

That’s all. I was never sure if they knew it also was my birthday or if they just didn’t care. My bets on they didn’t care.

It’s not that I hate birthdays. It’s not that I hate getting birthday presents. It’s that I’ve gotten so used to getting my hopes up only to get heartbroken that I just don’t want to anymore. I only want what’s on my list. I don’t expect all of it of course, but it’s all I want. It’s always astounded me that my parents will ask for a list, ignore it and buy me something totally out of left field, and then get upset that I don’t want it.

But this is what I’ve come to expect. And again, I’ve made a list this year. And I’ll probably send it to my mum in all its MAC lipstick glory and receive and goldfish. Or a can opener. Or maybe even both.  


Just fantasising about 10 guys serially fucking me like this. Omg





This is so breathtaking idk why

This is the best part of being comfortable in a relationshipYou can just lay there butt naked n be completely relaxed n not worried what they’re thinking about your body.

this gif is so relaxing

yeah i want that soo bad 

this is so important


if i sigh loudly enough will all of my problems go away 




When did he stop treating you like a princess?
Domestic violence and abuse can happen to anyone, but the vast majority of victims are young girls and women simply because they are “the weaker sex”.
Did you know:
On average, 2 women a week are killed by a current or former male partner. This constitutes nearly 40% of all female homicide victims.
45% of women are abused/raped by current husbands or partners, 9% by former partners, and a further 29% of perpetrators were otherwise known to the victim. Only 17% are attacked by by strangers.
44% of victims of domestic violence are involved in more than one incident. A large number of women experience the same abuse every week.
On average, a woman is assaulted 35 times before her first call to the police.
30% of domestic violence either starts or will intensify during pregnancy.
In almost 75% of incidents, a child is present or in a room closeby.
It’s time to show the world that we are not weak and we will simply not stand for this kind of ill treatment. Women should be treated as princesses, like Ariel and Cinderella, who never have to live in fear of their so-called Prince Charming.
It’s time to stand up. To speak out. To be heard.
Women’s domestic abuse/violence helplines (worlwide):
Women’s Aid/National Domestic Violence Helpline: 0808 2000 247
EB Women’s Aid: 0800 0852 654
Refuge: 020 7395 7713
Wales Domestic Abuse Helpline: 0808 80 10 800
Women’s Aid Federation (Northern Ireland): 0800 917 1414
National Centre for Domestic Violence: 0844 8044 999
WDA Helpline: 0161 636 7525
Rape Crisis support: 0808 802 9999
Relate: 0300 100 1234
Kiran Asian women’s aid: 020 8558 1986
Independent Choices: 0161 636 7525
The National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 or 1-800-787-3224
DAHMW: 1-888-743-5754
Safe Horizon for DA/V: 800.621.HOPE (4673)
Safe Horizon for Rape: 212.227.3000
Love Is Respect: 1-866-331-9474
National Teen Dating abuse/violence: 866-331-9474 or 866-331-8453
RAINN (Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network): 1-800-656-4673
White Ribbon: 02 9045 8444
National Sexual Assault/Family/Domestic hotline: 1800 737 732
LifeLine: 13 11 14
The Women’s Domestic Violence Crisis Service: (03) 9322 3555 or STD Freecall 1800 015 188
Sexual Assault Crisis Line: 1800 806 292
Domestic Violence Victoria, AUS: 9921 0828
DVConnect Womensline - Queensland: 1800 811 811
OTHER/MORE - some repeats:
National Child Abuse Helpline: 1-800-422-4453
National Domestic Violence Crisis Line: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
National Domestic Violence Hotline (TDD): 1-800-787-32324
Center for the Prevention of School Violence: 1-800-299-6504
Child Abuse Helpline: 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453)
Domestic Violence Helpline: 1-800-548-2722
Healing Woman Foundation (Abuse): 1-800-477-4111
Child Abuse Hotline Support & Information: 1-800-792-5200
Women’s Aid National Domestic Violence Helpline: (UK Only) 0345 023 468
Sexual Abuse Centre: (UK Only) 0117 935 1707
Sexual Assault Support (24/7, English & Spanish): 1-800-223-5001
Domestic & Teen Dating Violence (English & Spanish): 1-800-992-2600
Relationships Australia: 1300-364-277
Criminal Law Advice Line: 020 7251 8887  
Let’s put a stop to women’s domestic violence and abuse - FULL STOP.
If you’re being treated in a way you know isn’t right, pick up the phone and get help. And get out. IT IS NEVER TOO LATE FOR YOUR HAPPILY EVER AFTER. IT’S TIME TO CHANGE.
If in need of immediate help from abuse/violence, call the police (999/911 etc).
We’re in this together.
"When did he stop treating you like a princess?"/It doesn’t have to be this way - DISCLAIMER: I do not own these images. Courtesy of Saint Hoax.


please please reblog this.